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Before he bravely gave his life helping people escape the World Trade Center, Welles Crowther helped his father clean the fire truck. 

Welles’ mother remembered him going to the station on weekends with his father. Welles was small enough that he could get to parts of the truck that the adults could not. 

So he would come help shine up the truck for parades. The adults gave him meaningful work. And as a teenager, he trained to fight fires. 

Welles chose a career in equities trading. But on September 11, 2001, when the South Tower of the World Trade Center, where he worked, was hit, he got to work. He led strangers out of the building and helped the injured down the stairs. He carried one injured woman down several flights of stairs, then ran back upstairs to help others. 

He died when the tower collapsed on top of him. 

Those he helped rescue remembered that he carried a red bandanna, a habit he learned from his father.

Today marks the 25th anniversary of Welles Crowther’s sacrifice, and the sacrifices of hundreds of other heroes like him. His courage still moves me. But perhaps just as important as the hero he would become was that little boy at the firehouse.

A Person of Character

We usually discover heroes at the crucial moment of their heroic action. The danger arrives, they act, and we marvel. 

Who raised these kids, and how did they do it?

Talat Hamdani remembered her son Salman Hamdani as a 12-year-old. He brought sick pigeons home to nurse them back to health. As he grew older, that instinct turned into capability. He was trained as a New York City Police Department cadet, then decided to try to attend medical school. He began work as an EMT while he studied. Salman developed a habit of following up with the patients he brought to the hospital. 

On September 11, he was likely traveling to work on the elevated No. 7 train when he saw the burning towers. He never reported to work that day. Because he was a Pakistani Muslim, suspicions began to grow after he disappeared that morning. But those who knew him never wondered. Officials identified Salman’s body months later. He had gone to the North Tower, and he was found clutching his medical bag. 

A Child Who Has Something to Contribute

There is something important about children being given useful jobs among adults. The children can admire the work of the adults. They can discover that their contributions matter, that other people depend on them, and that becoming more capable will allow them to do more good. 

Each of these seemingly ordinary moments gives children an opportunity to care for others. 

But as parents, we can accidentally ignore or undermine those opportunities.

It is often faster to just do the job ourselves. Teaching a child how to do the dishes is, in my experience, more difficult than doing the dishes by several orders of magnitude. 

We may prioritize our children’s individual pursuits to a degree that leaves little room for the people and communities that need them. We may not ask a teenager to help us cook dinner for a neighbor recovering from surgery when doing so would upend the entire schedule. 

Or we may reach for rewards, giving children an answer to “What’s in it for me?” before they even ask, in turn denying children the opportunity simply to serve those around them. In a small experiment with 20-month-olds, children given material rewards for helping subsequently helped less when rewards stopped than did children who had received praise or no reward. Our incentives can sometimes interfere with a willingness already present. 

Heroism and Personal Fulfillment

So, with this in mind, how can we create a family and a culture (or perhaps even a society) that produces self-sacrificing heroes in an environment seemingly obsessed with personal fulfillment at the expense of everything else?

Even when we explain the reasons for sacrifice and service, we can keep the attention on the self. Volunteering can strengthen a college application. Generosity makes us feel better. Church will provide a good social environment. God will reward sacrifice with greater blessings.

Instead, we can cultivate the belief that another person’s need is itself a sufficient reason to act. We can explain to them why the tasks we give them matter, and they can watch us work alongside them. They can observe us keep our commitments when it is no longer in our own narrow self-interest.

Religious life is a particularly rich arena for children to learn this lesson. King Benjamin teaches that parents should teach children “to love one another, and to serve one another.” A congregation gives them people to practice with, including those who are inconvenient. It provides them with a community and obligations they can show up for. And it provides a structure for putting these lessons into practice.

We should expect our service to bring us joy. We should believe that God will bless us for our sacrifice. And we should learn to act for others without making those benefits the reason we act. “What do I get out of it?” cannot be the organizing question of a life that we hope could lead to the kind of heroism displayed by Welles and Salman. 

Ordinary Courage

Children need adults in their lives who model useful service that they can admire. Adults who have learned skills and use them to fulfill their responsibilities and to serve others. Welles had firefighting experience. Salman had medical training. They both had compassion, cultivated by thoughtful, purposeful, and loving parents, that caused them to put those skills to work.

Every single parent reading this article wishes that those two young men had come home that day. And thankfully, most of the service and sacrifice our children and we perform will go quietly, leave no public record, and end with us back with our families. 

On this anniversary, we can tell the stories of those who didn’t. Then we can turn to our own children and invite them into the work waiting around us, so that they can grow into the same kinds of people. 

Long before anyone knew that Welles Crowther was a hero, a boy went with his father to the firehouse, and the men there found a job for him to do. 

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As the first phase of this new venture, Public Square Media has gathered a group of mission-aligned podcasts that we will be supporting and will be supporting each other. In recent years, podcasts have become a ubiquitous form of media consumption, with an estimated 62 million Americans, or 22% of the population, downloading and listening to an average of seven episodes per week. As an immersive auditory experience, podcasts provide a unique form of entertainment and information consumption that allows listeners to hear the tone, inflection, and emotion in a speaker’s voice. This can make valuable content more engaging and relatable, fostering a more profound sense of connection and community among many listeners.

At Public Square Magazine, we are committed to effective communication, and we believe podcasts are a valuable tool for promoting civil dialogue and understanding. By engaging audiences who prefer to process and retain information presented in a verbal format, we can expand our community and ensure that our message reaches a broader audience. Our commitment to quality writing will continue as we enlarge the circle to include those who appreciate auditory methods.

The podcasts participating in this new initiative, Public Square Media, cover a range of topics and feature experts in a variety of genres. These podcasts are informative, accurate, reliable, and entertaining. We hope that you will give them a listen and let us know what you think. If you know of other shows you would like to have considered, please reach out to us at submit@publicsquaremag.org.

At Public Square Magazine, we are committed to fostering civil dialogue and understanding, and we believe that Public Square Media will be a valuable addition to our community, offering a new platform for engagement, connection, and growth. We look forward to embarking on this new journey with you, our valued readers and listeners.

Public Square Media launches with a focus this month on motherhood. We invite you to check out each of our podcasts and their featured episodes:

Family Bro Evening

Family Bro Evening is a podcast focusing on breaking barriers to understanding LDS beliefs and culture. We tackle the hard questions, dive into the doctrine, discuss culture quirks, and always have a bit of fun! New episodes are released every two weeks!

Our topic on motherhood/womanhood encompasses a two-part episode, with the specific women’s issues coming in part 2, including both links for context.

 Brad Wilcox Fireside Part 1

Brad Wilcox Fireside Part 2 (including the role of women)

Pop Culture on the Apricot Tree

Pop Culture on the Apricot Tree is a podcast dedicated to discussing pop culture from an LDS perspective. We talk about gospel insights through great stories and help you find entertainment that is both true and beautiful. The podcast is co-hosted by Liz Busby and Carl Cranney and features rotating guests discussing popular media from a Latter-Day Saint perspective. 

In this episode, they discuss the protagonist Louise’s courage to become a mother in spite of knowing the pain it will inevitably cause her and compare her with Mother Eve. They will also have a “Mothers in the Media” episode that will be out on Thursday, May 11.

Arrival: In Heaven We Will All Speak Heptapod

Radical Civility

Radical Civility is where we have hard conversations well. In the words of Arthur Brooks, the goal isn’t to disagree less but to disagree better. Our goal is to tell the truth with a fair dose of kindness and generosity—or, as President Russel M. Nelson has recently encouraged everyone, our goal is to really try to engage in peacemaking. Radical Civility will be recording upcoming episodes featuring some of the women in the Public Square community, but invite you to become familiar with them with this featured episode:

Scary Stories About Utah

Raising Family

Raising Family hosts David Steele, Linda Hill, and Brent Andrewsen tackle the most pressing issues facing today’s families, from social and cultural questions to theology surrounding The Family: A Proclamation to the World. You can find all episodes hosted at thefamilyproclamation.org or anywhere you like listening to your podcasts. 

Counterfeit Healing, Infertility and True Empowerment

Parents as Teachers with Nathan and Jelaire Richardson

Sit Down with Sky and Amanda

At Sit Down with Sky and Amanda, we are navigating a divisive world in a mixed-orientation marriage. We approach LGBT+ issues in a gospel-centered way and are always faith-affirming first. Join us in pursuing the balance of grace and truth with all the relevant cultural issues we face every day.

Q&A with our Wives 

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