Technology
The Sacrament of Attention
Our phones offer escape, but discipleship calls us to stay present long enough to hear God and love people well.
Matthew Hildebrandt
March 15, 2026
Our phones offer escape, but discipleship calls us to stay present long enough to hear God and love people well.
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